Why are relatives so tough to deal with? I mean, what’s the deal with them. I am a person who gives immense importance to human relations. I have always placed relationships before me. But, I have learnt a lesson the hard way. Never give anyone more importance than required. I will have to work towards it because, I have been one person (and I am who I am because of my parents and the values instilled in me by them) for 25 years and it’s tough for me to change my personality. What I don’t understand is how can people change themselves so much that they are one person this moment and totally a different person the very next moment.
My parents have taught us (my younger sister and me) to only give and not to ask. They taught us to be good to everyone. I have never seen them asking help from anyone. I have seen them struggle to be where we are now. It was never a cake-walk. I have seen them help when we had less. I have seen them taking care of their siblings and their siblings kids. And now, it’s these cousin’s attitude that I have started to detest.
One thing I don’t get is how can a person ever remain immune to whatever that is happening and just act as if everything’s fine. Is it a problem with them or is it a problem with me? I think it’s how I perceive things. I think for everyone whereas I should limit my thoughts around my parents, my in-laws, my husband and my sister. Why do I find it so tough to draw a line in relationships? I mean my conscience pinches me. It says, “what you are thinking of doing is wrong”.
The sooner I come to terms with realty the better.
